Our Adoption Story
As you know now, we are adopting and adding another blessing to our family. Following is the story of how this all came together.
This process began in November of 2006. We felt that God was telling us to expand our family and adoption would be the right choice for our family. We didn't know where to start so Janet contacted a long time friend that just completed an adoption to receive her wisdom in this process. First, we needed to choose which country to adopt from. After considering many factors, we settled on China. Her friend's recommendation was to go with an agency that would only do adoptions with that country. Her reasoning was that the agency would be more aware of constant law changes in that country. That made a lot of sense to us so we went that direction and chose an agency based in Texas but specializing in Chinese adoptions.
Although the agency was in Texas, we needed to find a social worker up here in Illinois to do our home study. We found one that many referred. So we started the paper work in November of 2006. By February of 2007, we attended our first all day workshop on international adoption. After the eye opening day of information, we put on the brakes with the adoption. We had every excuse imaginable why we should not go forward. One excuse that ran over in our minds many times was that we have a son going to college in a few years. Yikes, this is crazy! So we did not go forward with any paperwork for months. Although we were not completing any paperwork, the adoption was always on our hearts. By June of 2007, we humbly realized that no one is bigger than God (not even us) and that we need to submit to his authority. If He wants us to adopt then we need to adopt. It was a leap of faith at the time. So we started the paper work again. Unfortunately, there was so much time that had passed that we had to redo some of the paper work that we had already completed.
In June, we had a social worker come to our home and go over lots personal information about families, parenting, marriage etc. Well, we were very nervous about this because back in February when we attended the all day workshop, the social worker that led that was a very different mind set than Kevin and I. So we were not sure if what we do as a family would be okay in the eyes of the social worker. We were wondering, how are they going to handle our faith? how are they going to handle our homeschooling? Well, through the interview we were nervous but also knew that this is what God wanted us to do, so we were really leaning on the Lord to work all of this out. At the end of the interview, the social worker (someone different than the one at the all day workshop) said that she is also a Christian and thought that homeschooling would be an excellent environment for a new addition to the family. Phew!!!!! Kevin and I were amazed of God's umbrella of protection in assigning us a social worker that is more in agreement with our viewpoint.
By November of 2007, our paper work was completed and in China. We were relieved to have the paper work completed! Now the wait begins. We assumed that God was wanting us to adopt a little girl that would be of infant age. The waiting process from the time your paper work is in China is about 26 months. Wow, we are not getting any younger, but we knew that God has cleared the path during this whole adoption process that we shouldn't be so concerned about our age. During this time of waiting and during the paper chase earlier, every member of our family would be praying for this little girl. Because of the wait, we knew that possibly she wasn't even born or that she may not have been conceived yet. One of our prayers was for her birth parents who made the heart wrenching decision to abandon her. We would be praying for her health and her circumstances. We were praying for her everyday. That is how time passed in our family regarding the adoption.
As we waited, family life went on for the family. April of 2008 was a particularly busy time for our family. Our oldest son, Kyle, was in a play one weekend and then, a few days later, we headed to Georgia for a long weekend for his team's robotics competition. It was a fantastic time to be there with so many teams from around the world. After a successful competition, we came home on a Sunday looking forward to a week of downtime. However, on Monday we received a phone call from our adoption agency. They had a little girl for us to consider, however, she has some eye issues and is 5 years old. They wanted to know if we would consider her for adoption. We have always thought God wanted us to have an infant, but by trusting Him, we knew that we needed to look at this little girl's medical file and pray about it. So we said yes that we were willing to look at her file and make a determination if we could handle her special need. So we began another very busy week.
I started making phone calls to any optometrist and ophthalmologist that I had some form of connection with. We know that doctors are very busy people and that they are not going to spend time with just anyone. The first two doctors who looked at her file gave us polar opposite opinions. We knew at that time that we needed to keep searching for more opinions. We were running out of connections and time. Janet thought of her aunt who uses an opthamologist in Highland Park, IL. We gave that office a call and explained our situation. Their response was, "Have you called a pediatric opthamologist?" We said yes, however we had no more connections with one and highly suspect they will have no time to look at a medical file. The Highland Park office said, "Where do you live?" I said, "Arlington Heights." The office replied, "The pediatric opthamologist that we were going to refer to you has their office in Arlington Heights." Wow, this is great that the office is so close to our home. Now the next hurdle would be if they would be willing to look at the medical file.
So we called the office and told the receptionist our situation. She responded by telling us that she is a grandmother of two granddaughters that have been adopted from China and one has special needs. We thought that was so neat. The Big question was would the doctor look at the file? The receptionist then went on to tell us that many of her patients are children that have been adopted internationally and that she has been to Asia several times to help train others regarding the eyes. So God has lead us to one of the most qualified doctors in the area of our need. The receptionist said that she would be willing to see the file. Hallelujah! Two days later Janet is at the office waiting anxiously. The doctor spent 40 minutes with Janet! That is amazing - plus she didn't charge us a penny. Wow! We were praying for direction on this little girl and this doctor could clearly see what issues there may be. We were so grateful to have a knowledgeable, trustworthy opinion.
So now, we knew that her eye issues were manageable for our family, but we still were challenged by the fact that she is 5 - almost 6 years old. We thought we were supposed to adopt an infant. Apparently, another leap of faith on our part. After much prayer, we know that God will walk us through this journey and that this is the child He had in mind for our family all along. We are excited that she will be joining our family. It has been an amazing journey through all of this. To think that we thought our family was done with three children. Wow, God continually reminds us that His plan is greater than our plan and that we need to humble ourselves to his loving authority. His plans will always produce good.
July 24, 2008
We received our LSC from China!!! These are the official documents from China saying that we will adopt Megan. We are thrilled about this because due to the paper trail, we now know that Megan knows about us! We are waiting for our travel approval right now which will take about 3 weeks. At that point we will have a better idea when we are traveling. Our adoption agency said that it would be in September or November. We are wanting to get Megan as soon as we can, but we are relieved that we are not going in August during the Olympics. The prices of airfare and hotel is through the roof. God is watching over us. We are wanting to take all three kids with us so hopefully we can. We will write another update when we know more.
This process began in November of 2006. We felt that God was telling us to expand our family and adoption would be the right choice for our family. We didn't know where to start so Janet contacted a long time friend that just completed an adoption to receive her wisdom in this process. First, we needed to choose which country to adopt from. After considering many factors, we settled on China. Her friend's recommendation was to go with an agency that would only do adoptions with that country. Her reasoning was that the agency would be more aware of constant law changes in that country. That made a lot of sense to us so we went that direction and chose an agency based in Texas but specializing in Chinese adoptions.
Although the agency was in Texas, we needed to find a social worker up here in Illinois to do our home study. We found one that many referred. So we started the paper work in November of 2006. By February of 2007, we attended our first all day workshop on international adoption. After the eye opening day of information, we put on the brakes with the adoption. We had every excuse imaginable why we should not go forward. One excuse that ran over in our minds many times was that we have a son going to college in a few years. Yikes, this is crazy! So we did not go forward with any paperwork for months. Although we were not completing any paperwork, the adoption was always on our hearts. By June of 2007, we humbly realized that no one is bigger than God (not even us) and that we need to submit to his authority. If He wants us to adopt then we need to adopt. It was a leap of faith at the time. So we started the paper work again. Unfortunately, there was so much time that had passed that we had to redo some of the paper work that we had already completed.
In June, we had a social worker come to our home and go over lots personal information about families, parenting, marriage etc. Well, we were very nervous about this because back in February when we attended the all day workshop, the social worker that led that was a very different mind set than Kevin and I. So we were not sure if what we do as a family would be okay in the eyes of the social worker. We were wondering, how are they going to handle our faith? how are they going to handle our homeschooling? Well, through the interview we were nervous but also knew that this is what God wanted us to do, so we were really leaning on the Lord to work all of this out. At the end of the interview, the social worker (someone different than the one at the all day workshop) said that she is also a Christian and thought that homeschooling would be an excellent environment for a new addition to the family. Phew!!!!! Kevin and I were amazed of God's umbrella of protection in assigning us a social worker that is more in agreement with our viewpoint.
By November of 2007, our paper work was completed and in China. We were relieved to have the paper work completed! Now the wait begins. We assumed that God was wanting us to adopt a little girl that would be of infant age. The waiting process from the time your paper work is in China is about 26 months. Wow, we are not getting any younger, but we knew that God has cleared the path during this whole adoption process that we shouldn't be so concerned about our age. During this time of waiting and during the paper chase earlier, every member of our family would be praying for this little girl. Because of the wait, we knew that possibly she wasn't even born or that she may not have been conceived yet. One of our prayers was for her birth parents who made the heart wrenching decision to abandon her. We would be praying for her health and her circumstances. We were praying for her everyday. That is how time passed in our family regarding the adoption.
As we waited, family life went on for the family. April of 2008 was a particularly busy time for our family. Our oldest son, Kyle, was in a play one weekend and then, a few days later, we headed to Georgia for a long weekend for his team's robotics competition. It was a fantastic time to be there with so many teams from around the world. After a successful competition, we came home on a Sunday looking forward to a week of downtime. However, on Monday we received a phone call from our adoption agency. They had a little girl for us to consider, however, she has some eye issues and is 5 years old. They wanted to know if we would consider her for adoption. We have always thought God wanted us to have an infant, but by trusting Him, we knew that we needed to look at this little girl's medical file and pray about it. So we said yes that we were willing to look at her file and make a determination if we could handle her special need. So we began another very busy week.
I started making phone calls to any optometrist and ophthalmologist that I had some form of connection with. We know that doctors are very busy people and that they are not going to spend time with just anyone. The first two doctors who looked at her file gave us polar opposite opinions. We knew at that time that we needed to keep searching for more opinions. We were running out of connections and time. Janet thought of her aunt who uses an opthamologist in Highland Park, IL. We gave that office a call and explained our situation. Their response was, "Have you called a pediatric opthamologist?" We said yes, however we had no more connections with one and highly suspect they will have no time to look at a medical file. The Highland Park office said, "Where do you live?" I said, "Arlington Heights." The office replied, "The pediatric opthamologist that we were going to refer to you has their office in Arlington Heights." Wow, this is great that the office is so close to our home. Now the next hurdle would be if they would be willing to look at the medical file.
So we called the office and told the receptionist our situation. She responded by telling us that she is a grandmother of two granddaughters that have been adopted from China and one has special needs. We thought that was so neat. The Big question was would the doctor look at the file? The receptionist then went on to tell us that many of her patients are children that have been adopted internationally and that she has been to Asia several times to help train others regarding the eyes. So God has lead us to one of the most qualified doctors in the area of our need. The receptionist said that she would be willing to see the file. Hallelujah! Two days later Janet is at the office waiting anxiously. The doctor spent 40 minutes with Janet! That is amazing - plus she didn't charge us a penny. Wow! We were praying for direction on this little girl and this doctor could clearly see what issues there may be. We were so grateful to have a knowledgeable, trustworthy opinion.
So now, we knew that her eye issues were manageable for our family, but we still were challenged by the fact that she is 5 - almost 6 years old. We thought we were supposed to adopt an infant. Apparently, another leap of faith on our part. After much prayer, we know that God will walk us through this journey and that this is the child He had in mind for our family all along. We are excited that she will be joining our family. It has been an amazing journey through all of this. To think that we thought our family was done with three children. Wow, God continually reminds us that His plan is greater than our plan and that we need to humble ourselves to his loving authority. His plans will always produce good.
July 24, 2008
We received our LSC from China!!! These are the official documents from China saying that we will adopt Megan. We are thrilled about this because due to the paper trail, we now know that Megan knows about us! We are waiting for our travel approval right now which will take about 3 weeks. At that point we will have a better idea when we are traveling. Our adoption agency said that it would be in September or November. We are wanting to get Megan as soon as we can, but we are relieved that we are not going in August during the Olympics. The prices of airfare and hotel is through the roof. God is watching over us. We are wanting to take all three kids with us so hopefully we can. We will write another update when we know more.
Sunday, December 21, 2008
We have had quite a bit of snow now. Megan has mixed feelings about the snow. She knows that it is very cold. Jenna and Matt have taken her sledding in our back yard. It has a slight slope. Megan loves it. She screams all the way down. The first time she screamed, I thought she was unhappy, but she reassured us that she was having a blast. We drove around last night and looked at Christmas lights. That was a lot of fun! We sang Christmas songs in the van. She knew many of the words to the songs. We had a great time! It is hard to believe that Christmas is only a few days away. We hope that everyone will be healthy. Jenna is currently suffering from a bad sore throat. We hope that will resolve quickly and not spread to anyone. We hope that everyone is enjoying this time of year as we remember the great gift God gave us, Jesus.
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
Well, this week and next are very busy with visiting different doctors. We had an appointment with the dentist on Monday which went horribly. We are trying to locate a good pediatric dentist which takes our insurance. Megan had a huge fear of the dentist chair. I (Janet) sat in the chair and she sat on my lap but she was very very unhappy. We go to the Neurologist tomorrow and then the disease infectious doctor and cardiologist next week. We don't anticipate any issues to pop up however this will provide a base line on Megan. This way if anything comes up later, we have a decent idea what shape she is in. Pray that she will handle these doctor visits well. She is not a big fan of doctors.
Megan is doing well. She is busy doing school with the other kids now. She enjoys coloring, playing with playdoh and she is starting to write a few letters. She is learning to enjoy listening to stories. She can also count well. She can count to a hundred with a little bit of help. Megan is also doing well in her sunday school class. It will be interesting to see what Christmas day will be like for her. She loves the Christmas lights!
Megan is doing well. She is busy doing school with the other kids now. She enjoys coloring, playing with playdoh and she is starting to write a few letters. She is learning to enjoy listening to stories. She can also count well. She can count to a hundred with a little bit of help. Megan is also doing well in her sunday school class. It will be interesting to see what Christmas day will be like for her. She loves the Christmas lights!
Wednesday, December 3, 2008
We had a nice Thanksgiving. Megan did well during the holiday. We spent part of the day with one side of the family (37 people) then the other side of the family (9 people). It was great to be with all the family. Megan enjoyed seeing everyone and meeting some family for the first time. She especially enjoyed her first time on a trampoline. Hope everyone's day went well.
Over the weekend, we put up our Christmas decorations. Megan loved the tree and all the lights. It was so much fun with her.
Over the weekend, we put up our Christmas decorations. Megan loved the tree and all the lights. It was so much fun with her.
Wednesday, November 26, 2008
Well, tomorrow is Thanksgiving. We have so much to be thankful. Last year on Thanksgiving Day at Kevin's sister Donna's home we announced that we were going to adopt a child from China. We had no idea it was going to Megan at that time. We thought that God was directing us to a baby in China. Wow, God had other plans. Megan has been such a blessing to our family. Megan is doing so well. She is learning quickly! We are busy attending many different doctors at this time. It is like a "tune up". We are going to many specialists just to get a base line on her in case anything were to come up later. As I have mentioned, we have seen the ophthamologist and will be back in February. Instead of seeing pictures about 4 inches from Megan's eyes, she can see about 2 1/2 - 3 feet. We are encouraged. We have been to the orthopedic doctor for her arms. She doesn't have full rotation of her hand. It is something that she is born with and there is not much that can be done. This is just fine because Megan can do many, many things, just not everything. Our next visit will be the neurologist. This is in December to make sure there was no brain damage with the nystagmus. It is extremely unlikely that there is a problem but it is worth checking out. Later we will have a visit with the cardiologist and the disease infectious doctor. After those appointments, then hopefully the "tune up" will be complete. It takes a lot of time to do all of this but we are so grateful that we live in a country that has great medical care. We are grateful that we live close to Chicago because some of these doctors are at Children's Memorial Hospital. There is so much to be thankful. Everyone in my family is healthy and is doing well. We will be headed off to Kevin's sister Donna's home tomorrow for Thanksgiving and will be able to share it with 37 people there and then go to Janet's brother Ted's home for dessert where there will be 9 people. Isn't it funny how family sizes can be so different. Happy Thanksgiving.
Monday, November 17, 2008
Well today was an interesting day! Megan went in for her physical. She did o.k. but has such a fear of doctors. She made it through the appointment with quite a bit of crying. The doctor is going to order for some blood to be withdrawn so we can see how she is doing. We hope that will be next week sometime. We are going to the orthopedic doctor on Thursday. She seems to be having some issues with her forearms so we want the doc to check that out. The exciting news for the day was that Megan received her glasses. She was so excited. When she looked into the mirror, she was beaming from one ear to the other ear. Anyone who came into our home today was greeted by Megan with her finger pointing to her new glasses. She is very excited. She has been very good about keeping them on so far. She seems to be seeing a little bit better. We have a long way to go with her eyes but this is a great start. We are encouraged that there was some improvement.
Thursday, November 13, 2008
Well we had a busy day with Megan today. Kevin was able to attend the eye doctor appointment too. We were very pleased with the doctor and the office. Everyone was very nice and encouraging. We ordered glasses for Megan today. It won't be her last prescription, but we need to start somewhere. We will be going back for another visit in February. We will then evaluate the condition of her lazy eye more closely. Hopefully some work can be done, however we are coming to the end of that window of time to help that lazy eye. Megan did very well at the doctor's office today. She did not want to cooperate with the eye drops. Hence it took three times to get her eyes somewhat dilated. She did o.k. with the machinery for her eyes but didn't really like it. You can tell based on her response that she has had this before but I question how lovingly and gentle the physicians were in China. The doctor gave her these plastic, roll up sun glasses so she could handle the light with her dilated eyes. She loved these! She wore them all the way home and couldn't wait to show her siblings. She thought that she looked pretty cool in them. It was funny! Megan's glasses will arrive next Friday so we can't wait to get her started on this journey! We hope that she will keep her glasses on and not play with them or continually take them off.
Saturday, November 8, 2008
PRAY!!!! We are going to the eye specialist on Thursday for Megan. We are grateful that we were able to move it up one month from the original appointment. We are anxious to see how it goes and of course hoping for the best! Megan is doing well. She is learning the ABCs and 123s and colors. Her vocabulary is expanding quite a bit. She says many words but we are not sure how much she understands. She seems to be a clever girl so we think she knows more than she is letting on. We have checked out some nursery rhyme cds from the library and she loves them. She also enjoys Matt and Jenna's suzuki music. She listens to the suzuki music and plays an air violin. Very cute. She is a big auditory learner. She is meeting new people all the time and she handles that very well. We have attended church one time since we have been back and she did very well! She sits patiently for about 1 hour and 15 minutes for the service. We will see how that goes as time goes on. We are so glad that she doesn't grieve anymore. She hasn't grieved in over a week. She is feeling more at home all the time!
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